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Author Biography - Mark
As an author and the senior editor of Seriousbondage.com, Mark comments on his life-long journey of bondage exploration.
25 Apr, 2001
ello, and welcome. My name is Mark, the creator and senior editor of this fantastic bondage web site. I hope you have found
your way here because you have an interest in safe, sane and consensual bondage play.
Maybe you are new to bondage, or maybe you have already experienced bondage and are just looking for some new ideas. Whatever the case, hopefully you will find this site a place to call home. I will do my best to create a warm and welcoming experience for everyone, and post content that's interesting, erotic, unique and of course safe.
We all have different stories to tell about how we acquired our interest in bondage. Some of us had
simple childhood experiences like being tied up while playing cops-and-robbers. Others discovered bondage as adults, often because our partner or lover had prior bondage experience which they shared with us.
My bondage interests stem from a childhood experience I had when I was 10 years old. I tied up, or more accurately chained up a little girl who lived next door. I didn't know what sex was about at the time, but I remember feeling strange and wonderful all over. That innocent experience was the beginning of a life-long exploration of bondage, which I am still pursuing today. No matter what your age, it's never too late to experience the wonderful and erotic qualities of bondage, so please read on.
I grew up as an only child, in a family that associated sex and sensuality with shame, embarrassment and guilt. It was not okay to talk about or pursue physical pleasure. In addition, fun, enjoyment, and acceptance of one's self were discussed with extreme caution, as if the enjoyment of one's own life could be taken away at any time.
Needless to say, this was not an environment in which I felt safe to explore my bondage fantasies. As a matter of fact, one might speculate that my family environment actually created my yearning for bondage - and I suppose I would agree with that. As a young child, I yearned to be loved, protected, held and accepted, and these are a few of the emotional qualities which a bondage experience can provide.
Bondage has been my primary erotic and sexual outlet since my first major experience at age 10. Needless to say, that first experience was only one of a number of significant bondage experiences throughout life so far, all of which have provided me with great pleasure and fulfillment, and have rounded my knowledge of bondage gear and play. Recently, I
stopped analyzing why I like bondage, and stopped worrying about whether I'm a social misfit or outcast. When I look back over all of my life so far, I realize that most humans, of any nationality, age or upbringing, have some mild fascination or attraction to bondage. After all, bondage is about physical restraint, which is connected to our freedom of choice, personal and sexual power, and our fight-or-flight response system. So, we view bondage with a keen natural awareness.
Many people who experience an attraction to bondage don't share their feelings with others for fear of being harshly judged. As a result, they end up feeling isolated and unfulfilled in their romantic and sexual lives. I felt this way for many years myself.
One of the best things I ever did was to join a BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadomasochism) club, where I could meet and talk with people who had the same interest in bondage that I did. Having this outlet made my life feel much more balanced because I knew I had a place to go where my interests and fantasies were accepted.
The club I joined was called the Society of Janus, located in San Francisco. Today, there are many BDSM clubs and organizations all over the world. In addition, the newest BDSM social event is called a munch. It my understanding that the first munch was invented in Silicon Valley (California) in the early 1990's.
A munch is an informal social gathering of kinky people at a local restaurant, coffeehouse or bar. The munch event is usually created by a local BDSM person who wants to meet other like-minded people in a particular town or city. At the time of this writing (2004) there are so many munches in the San Francisco Bay Area I can't keep track of them all. If you are interested in attending a munch, just do a web search for the word "munch" and "BDSM" and the name of a reasonably large or well-established town or city near you. If you don't have a munch in your area, you could simply start one yourself. If you take the time to create one and list it on the Internet, people will show up. In the City of San Francisco we have two munches - one is held on the first Saturday of every month, at noon in the back room of a local restaurant. The other has been renamed the "Liquid Munch" and is held on the last Sunday evening of the month in the back room a local bar (no food, just drink).
In 2003, I lost my job during the great "dot-com" technology bust in Silicon Valley. After six months of depression and soul searching, I decided to build this web site instead of looking for another insane tech job.
My goal was to make bondage information available to as many people as possible, so instead of building a membership (pay) site, I decided my site would be free-access and I would try to make an income from selling advertising and specialty bondage gear.
Some people think I've lost my mind with this approach, but I'm going to give it a try. This web site has been on line as a "commercial" site since April 3, 2004, and the jury is still out on whether my approach is working. With any luck, my site might become the de facto place for quality bondage information on the net, and I'll be happy.
Thank you for visiting my web site, I hope you enjoy it and continue to return on a regular basis If you are interested in being notified whenever new content is posted, join the mailing list by clicking HERE.
I can be contacted via e-mail at editor@seriousbondage.com
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